I resorted to chocolate buttons - a small packet (or half a packet when I could get away with it!) We've tried fun songs, books, rewards etc.My instinct is let him keep sitting on the loo as at least he's trying and maybe one day we will get there again. Then I put a diaper on him and he goes pee right away. You’re frustrated, discouraged and angry. He came out a minute later, and said “a man helped me wash my hands.” Then pointed at someone leaving the bathroom. Your child doesn’t have distractions. Refusing to poo in a potty or toilet is a very common situation for toilet-training kids. I even went out and bought a Winnie the Pooh one that has a little flushy handle on it and say "good job". My oldest son has the same issues and he is seven. We had the same with DS2. Some quick points before I jump in: She’ll be turning 4 in a month. Now he's got no problems going at home. But I’m the mother. My 4 year old son won't go for a poo by himself to the toilet ... My 4 year old son doesn't go to the toilet for days which could be up to 5 days +. -ignoring her when she has these accidenrts and giving lots of praise when she uses the loo. Even something you would not notice or would think is a small change in her life can throw a four year old off. Do not conclude that your child got potty-trained if they have successful encounters a few times. Please note, as this is a peer-to-peer discussion board, Netmums has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. I don't have any real advice other than don't stress about it and it'll happen when he's ready.
Not just pooping, peeing too. Not his woe, mine! x, I'm at my wits end with my 4.5 year old daughter. I have a 4-1/2 year old that just won't use the potty. star charts can be good, but my son is only good for a short time on them then he goes back to his old ways. Is this normal behaviour? My 4 year old can't or won't go to toilet From behaviour to bedtimes, school choices to screen time, this is the place to talk all things child-related. about a year ago when was having major probs with the wee thing as well, h/v advised me to take him too toilet after each meal and sit with him for ten minutes and read a book or something. With DS we just made toilet time after bath quite long. Have you spoken to the incontinance nurse? Try to pretend like it doesn't matter to you at all. Don't let a parent push their success with their two year old to make you feel like they have any idea about your 8 year old. He never wore pull-ups to school, and never had any accidents, but the minute he was home, he would have to have them on and go behind the sofa or a chair. One of my ds had been completely dry day and night for ages, but was still insisting on doing poos in pull-ups when he went into reception, so you can imagine how on edge I was! -rewards